Two are better than one

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9

I want to let you in on a little secret.

For our 25th wedding anniversary, my husband and I decided to learn how to dance. Not just for fun, but to perform at our daughter’s Quinceañera this summer. What started as a sweet anniversary idea quickly turned into something much deeper. It shifted our focus to our relationship with God, with each other, and even with those around us.

We showed up to our first lesson ready to shine. After all, how hard could it be? We started with the basics: Getting in sync with each other, learning the roles of lead and follower, following the beat, simple… right? Not exactly.

At the beginning, I struggled the most. Naturally, I wanted to lead. I wanted to add my own style. And who cares if you’re a little off beat? Well… apparently the music cares. And so does your partner.

What we thought would be a piece of cake turned into us struggling just to walk back and forth together. Thankfully, we weren’t alone; most of the class were beginners too.

On the second day, we came determined. We would learn the steps. We would follow the beat. But we were still missing the point: dancing isn’t a sport to conquer, it’s a moment to enjoy. One sweet lady gently reminded us of that truth.

Then came the partner switch. That part terrified me. Apparently, the look on my face said it all. One gentleman laughed and said, “You look like you’re about to kill me! Relax!” I was so afraid of messing up that I focused only on anticipating his next move and forgot to tell my face to relax. Another time, he kindly said, “Let me lead. Stop trying to help.”

By our third session, the instructor told us, “You two are doing well. You have good chemistry. I’ve had three couples divorce after taking this class.”

We weren’t sure if that was encouragement… or a warning.

So now, whenever my husband says he’s too tired to go practice, I tease him: “You don’t want to end up like the other three couples, do you?”

If we trip over each other at the Quinceañera… blame the tango.

But all joking aside, this experience has stirred something deeper in me.

“It takes two to tango” isn’t just a phrase, it’s a reality.

And the same is true in our spiritual life. We must choose God as our Partner… and let Him lead.

That’s where many of us struggle. We want to anticipate His moves. We want to help. We want to add our own timing, rush ahead, or resist when the rhythm feels unfamiliar. But when we insist on leading, we step on His toes, and our own.

God knows the music. He is patient when we’re off beat. He gently stops us when we’re moving too fast. He draws us closer when we drift. And in His kindness, He reminds us that surrender isn’t weakness, it’s trust.

Growth begins the moment we relax our grip and allow Him to guide our steps. When you are truly close to Him, criticism fades. Fear grows quiet. The opinions of others lose their impact. You simply follow.

Now I understand why King David danced before the Lord. When you’ve been in His presence, when you’ve felt His closeness, you stop worrying about how you look. You simply respond with joy.

The beauty of dancing is this: you focus on the person in front of you. The same is true with God. When you are focused on Him, others may watch, criticize, or misunderstand, but your heart is fixed on your Partner.

There will always be others on the dance floor with us. Some are struggling. Some are learning. Some are resting. Because sometimes… You need cake.

In dance class, when we kept messing up, Moses would say, “Cake break!” And we’d pause, reset, and try again.

Spiritually, we need that too. Sometimes as leaders, we get tired. We feel like we’re constantly trying to catch up. That’s when it’s time to pause, refuel, and rest in His presence. Other times, we’ve been dancing faithfully and diligently, and we simply need to celebrate what God has done.

When I dance alone, I’m carefree. I don’t mind if I mess up; I just keep moving.

But the beauty of dancing with God is this: He never overreacts when we stumble. He simply brings us to a gentle stop and starts again. Sometimes He even sends others to encourage us, or lovingly correct us. Growth happens when we are humble enough to listen.

Thankfully, after every lesson so far, we leave excited and motivated, looking forward to the next one. Even when one of us says, “Maybe we should skip tonight,” the other reminds, “You don’t want to end up like the other three couples!”

Ecclesiastes reminds us: Two are better than one. When one falls, the other lifts them up. In marriage. In friendship. In ministry. And most importantly, in our walk with God.

At Hillspring, we don’t dance alone. We grow together. The question isn’t whether you’re dancing. The question is, who’s leading?

Blessings,

Pastora Grimelda Sanchez (The Dancing Queen)