I came to a point in my life where I felt something was missing. I wasn’t whole. My life was pretty good. I had a good job, an amazing family, and nothing really to complain about but, I was still waking up each morning wondering why I was feeling so incomplete. I wasn’t sure what I needed. Was it a new job; was it a new hobby, a move to another location, better relationships with my friends and family?
I have always believed in Jesus but as more time pressed on, I wanted to really know Him. I heard an ad on the radio about Hillspring and decided to come listen to a sermon on Hope in 2015. I immediately felt a connection to what was being said and started coming to Hillspring regularly with my family. Intuitively, I felt that God could transform some of the bad things I have been through in my life, for good. I wondered, how could the things that happened to me, help other people? I felt a stirring and connection when I was introduced to the Stephen Ministry.
The Center for Sharing offers very similar support to individuals in need. They help individuals realize their own self-power through a Christ-centered approach and servant leadership principles.
The Stephen Ministry was one way for me to provide an understanding ear, to someone hurting. The training that I received was invaluable. I had always been the person in my family that if consulted, would provide a solution. I was a fixer. If something in your life wasn’t going right, I would tell you exactly what you needed to do to remedy that problem. I learned that when we fix others or do the things they could be doing themselves; it hurts them more than anything. Really listening from a place of non-judgment, non agenda, and true empathy for their situation, is the more effective way to help people. Listening and providing unconditional support, allows an individual to come to their own solutions, making much more of an impact. During this learning and growth period for me, I was introduced to a nonprofit, Center for Sharing.
The Center for Sharing offers very similar support to individuals in need. They help individuals realize their own self-power through a Christ-centered approach and servant leadership principles. I accepted a position where I would be shared between the Center for Sharing and their sister nonprofit, Jubilee Leadership Academy, a boarding school for troubled teens. This was quite the change for me as I had worked at my previous job for 13 years. I accepted this new role to bring awareness to both organizations’ missions just three months after listening to that sermon on Hope.
Jubilee Leadership Academy practices and teaches a trauma informed approach method to healing. I learned that the adverse childhood experiences we endure growing up, affects us in many ways and to get to a place where we can grow, heal, and move on successfully, we must first feel safe and loved. This means that if we want to make a difference in someone’s life, all it takes is for us to help them feel safe and loved. I realize now, that this is what that Hope sermon provided me. Since then, I have been on a road of substantial growth which has taken me on quite the speedy transition. The trauma informed approach focuses on love versus fear, influence versus control, what someone is trying to communicate through their behavior versus their bad behavior, and discipline versus punishment. This new perspective has really changed me.
I had always had a need to control every detail of my life. I had forgotten, or perhaps I had never learned, to let go, and give even the smallest issue up to Jesus and let Him lead me and show me how to love people in a healthy way. I am astonished by the fulfillment received from this exciting new journey.